Every since I took Psychology in high school I have loved it. I always knew I wanted to work in the psychology field, but I didn't know what I wanted to do aside from just general counseling. Recent events in my life & in the lives of so many of my friends have made it crystal clear to me what I want to do specifically.
I am going to be a child counselor and specialize in blended families. Trying to help the parents get along for the sake of the child/children, help the child/children adjust to situation, give the child/children a safe person to talk to about situations they don't like or approve of without worrying of repercussions from a bitter parent. Through my activity on stepmom groups I hear about SO MANY kids who are being ignored, put in the middle, treated like crap because they like their stepparent, ect....
I think counseling like this should be court ordered for *all* children who's parents have split up and are going through custody issues. And I think that it should continue until the parents can consistently get along or the child/children is 21.
Think about the blended families you know. Everyone knows a blended family. Between the high number of divorce and the high number of teen pregnancies, there are more children in single parent homes or blended families than there are in two bio parent homes. Now think about that blended family that immediately popped into your head. You hear the mother bitch about the father & stepmother, you hear the father bitch about the mother & stepfather, but what about the child? What is that child being inundated with? Is that custodial parent bitching about the other one in front of the child? That's damaging to the child. It's also a sign of Hostile Aggressive Parenting and/or Parental Alienation.
A parent who fills a child's head with negative things about their other parent is engaging in Hostile Aggressive Parenting and/or Parental Alienation. *THIS IS A FORM OF CHILD ABUSE!* If a parent cannot be positive (and not in an "I'm positive they suck" way) about their ex to their children, they should not mention their ex at all!
These are the types of situations I will be dealing with. I will do child therapy in such a way that I am also working with the family to give them tools to help their child. I absolutely cannot wait to get my degrees (BS in Psych and Masters either in Counseling or Social Work whichever my advisor suggests is best for what I want to do) and start working.
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6 years ago
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This is so not where I thought I was gonna go when I started this post. LOL
Hearts that have not only personal experience, but also education and training make the strongest advocates for there is better balance in our support of others when we do not look at all situations through the solo lenses of our personal experiences. That is what drove me further into research and eventually to earn my divorce mediation certification. My own experience provided insights, but personal experience alone is incomplete. Educational insights alone is incomplete. To have both makes a huge difference, I know it gave me better balance, and I think you would do a great job in the role you aspire to!
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