Whack job!

So I read an article that another stepmom (Wendy) posted in her blog. In this article a biological mother (BM) gave up custody in 2003. She pays absolutely nothing towards her children, takes visitation from Saturday morning until Sunday evening *UNLESS* she has other plans.

HOWEVER she wants to be able to dictate what the stepmother (SM); who takes care of these children every single day, who helps pay doctor bills, who helps pay activity fees, ect.. does and does not do for the children! I mean this nutcase even went so far as to say the children could not ride in the car with the woman who has been taking care of them full time for the past 6 years?!?!?!

Can we say DELUSIONAL?!?! I have heard about some pretty stupid and delusional BM's but "Ashley" definitely takes the cake!! First of all it's delusional for ANY BM to expect the SM stay out of the child/children's lives while the child is in their care. But most especially if that SM is the full time caregiver of said child/children (aka BF/Biological Father has full custody) that BM has no say whatsoever, at all, in any shape or form over what the BF or SM do with the children on their own time. As long as their activities do not interfere with BM's time with the children, it is not for her to have a say.

I am a firm believer in "Our house/Our rules, Their house/Their rules." This means no one has a right to tell my husband nor I what we can or cannot do with any of our children while in our care. In the same regard, we have no right whatsoever to tell anyone else what they can or cannot do with our children while they are in their care. If our children go to their grandparents' house (and we are not there) then it's their grandparents' rules, not ours, that should be followed. Now if they are at their grandparents' house and we *are* there, then they need to follow our rules as they are in our care still.

I really hope that "Ashley" gets a wake up call and quickly. The hell she is putting her children through with this tug-of-war for the past 6 years is awful. I pray that the father and stepmother in this situation are able to shield those poor children from the majority of their biological mother's craziness.