Toxic People

So I was watching Monster-In-Laws last night. You'd think I'd have enough in-law drama that I wouldn't want to watch but I guess it's like a train wreck.

Anyway, so I'm watching and I'm thinking to myself "why do these people still live with/interact with these toxic people?!" You know I'm all for making peace where peace can be made. However sometimes it just can't be made!!

I have issues with my mother-in-law. I'm not gonna rehash them here. Let's just leave it at she treats me like dirt and has told my husband that they'd give him somewhere to live if he'd leave me. We have not seen my MIL, at my HUSBAND'S insistence, since October and DH hasn't seen my FIL since November (when he passed on MIL's message about the place to live). I was in our bedroom and didn't even know he'd been here.

My husband and I have decided that since his parents are highly toxic to our family, we have just cut them out. We've done this many times over the past 10 years. We cut them out until they, well until she, can behave appropriately in front of our children. So we'll go a few months to a year without talking and then we'll go back around them until something happens again and then we cut them out again.

This is how we maintain peace in our household. We do not see the need to maintain relationships with people who are nothing but toxic. I have given up friends who have talked trash about him and he's done the same for me. It's that easy. If someone is toxic, get away from them.

The two episodes I watched had the husband & wife living with the wife's family. In one episode, the MIL wouldn't even allow her Son-In-Law live there! She let her daughter & granddaughter live there but refused to let him live there. (they had damage to their house so wasn't safe to stay there) In the other episode it was their SECOND TIME on the show!! The wife had to call the show before she and her husband even got married.

In both episodes the MILs were HORRIBLE!! The MIL who was on twice even said that her daughter miscarried because of the husband AND researched annulments in the Catholic church and kept trying to trick her daughter into signing them. I mean REALLY?!?! Who does something like that?!?!

I don't understand why these women didn't grow a pair and tell their mothers to shut up and then MOVE OUT!!! I understand money was an issue in both situations, but I'd rather live in a tent than live with someone like these MILs were! At least my MIL attempts to hide her nastiness. She tends to only do it when no one else is around to witness it. If anyone else is around she supposedly loves me to pieces. (though i think if i had to choose i'd prefer she just be out with it... of course then she couldn't try to turn the entire family against me cause no one believes my side of things)

Okay, so my point in all of this is this: If someone is dead set to ruin your marriage.... CUT THEM OUT OF YOUR LIVES!!! They will either change and contact you again or they won't. Either way, your family will have peace.