Blended Family Rant...

Why do people automatically believe everything a BM (bio-mother) says and automatically think that the BF and SM are the devil?! It's ridiculous!!! Turn on the news, if something happens to a child the first suspect is the BF (bio-father) and/or SM (stepmom). Even if they have an air tight alibi, they are still considered a suspect.

And people are so not afraid to butt in where it's none of their business either. Recently we had some drama with BM and I guess an email was sent to some people who had absolutely no business being involved. Well one of them took it upon himself to email my husband. Do you think this person asked for my husband's side of things? NOPE!!! Instead he blasted my husband about things he did not know the whole story on. And he obviously didn't know who he was talking to because he threw around words like "...devastating effect on him in the long term." Really?! In all my psychology classes I have NEVER heard of not playing a football game having "devastating effects" on a child. And in all of Hubby's education classes he never heard of it either. IN FACT, quite the opposite was taught. That having a relationship with ALL their parents (yes, including stepparents) was vital for a child's well being.

My husband has not seen the mentioned email yet. I check his email for him and weed out the spam because he has very little time on the computer. He's much too busy working, helping me home-school our son, and taking an active role in raising his children. He doesn't have time (nor the inclination) to sit on the computer for any amount of time. I, however, have time because in the mornings K does independent play and S is on his computer doing school work. I can go back and forth. Not to mention my school is also online.

So back to my original point. What is it about blended families that makes people like the aforementioned think it's ok to just listen to one side of a situation and think they have all the facts?! Would they do that if their kids were fighting? Would they just listen to the first child who came to them saying "Johnny hit me" and not go ask Johnny what happened? No! No good parent would do this. So why is it ok to do essentially the same thing to any BF and/or SM???

Ok, to conclude: If you find yourself being dragged into the middle of blended family drama (otherwise known as Bull Scheiße) first of all, if you have no business being involved in the drama, WALK AWAY!!!!!! Ignore the email, hang up the phone, whatever it takes! Tell the person that you have absolutely no need to be involved in it. But, if you find yourself involved anyway, don't take the person's word as golden. There are 2 sides to every story. Sometimes one side is correct and the other side is psychotic, sometimes both sides are correct but with different perspectives.... But always remember, there are TWO SIDES TO EVERY STORY!!!!